Self Esteem – How To Be Totally Unfair To Yourself
Most of us demonstrate a hard-hearted refusal to forgive ourselves, even for relatively minor mistakes. In fact, we often spend years criticizing ourselves for things we did way back in childhood. Our self esteem can potentially carry wounds dating all the way back to the cradle.Self Esteem – The Tyranny of Dependence
Where the dominant personality wants to make every decision for others, the doormat would rather make no decisions at all. His cry is “Just tell me what to do, and I’ll do it for you.” He seems to have surrendered all shreds of self esteem. These two seem to be made for each other, fitting as naturally together as bread and butter. Yes, it would appear that the passive person is willing to be the servant of others. But appearances can be deceiving.Self Esteem – Do You Really Want to Change Your World?
We all say we’d like a better life. We want more money, we say, and happier family relations, more friends, higher self esteem, greater confidence. We all say that… You’ve heard the old expression: “Actions speak louder than words.” Well, our actions say that most of us don’t want everything we claim to want.Self Esteem – If You Have a Compulsion to Help
Are you letting others be right (or wrong), or are you trying to MAKE others be right? What’s the difference, you ask? Here it is in a nutshell. If you’re letting others be right, you’re trusting them to have good judgment and make useful decisions. On the other hand, making others be right doesn’t involve trust in their judgment. It requires taking over for them and making their decisions for them. This is a way of dominating others.
This contradicts traditional wisdom, but you have never failed. You’ve probably had times when you didn’t achieve the goals you set. You may have self-sabotaged and undercut your own conscious intentions. But you have not failed, ever. The reason I say this is simple, really. There is always some part of you that’s in charge of doing whatever it is that you do. You’re not out of control. That’s not even possible.Self Esteem – One Step To Being Free
Know this: you’re blameless. There is absolutely nothing wrong with you, no matter what all those rules in your head say. After all, they’re just rules you adopted along the way, arbitrarily, as you were growing up, trying to cope with an unending stream of new and confusing situations, trading off bits of your self esteem as you learned again and again that you were often “wrong.”Self Esteem – How You Learned Self-Rejection
This self of ours, an ad hoc identity that we’ve thrown together on the fly, has been built up to handle many different tasks. It’s sort of like the statues you see of Buddhist gods who have a thousand arms. One of your identity’s arms was built to keep you socially acceptable. Another was created to make sure you could earn enough money to keep eating. There are also arms for family relations, work relations, and other attitudes toward a million different issues in daily life.
When we come into this world we have minimal identity. But as we spend time around other humans, we tend to pick up and imitate bits and pieces of what we see, so before long we’re a mish-mash of things we’ve gathered up and adopted. As we adopt these traits and behaviors from others, we do it consciously, but after we’ve repeated them often enough, we forget how we chose to be that way.Self Esteem – Your Identity May Be an Optical Illusion
The urge among us humans to discover higher meaning or gain the power to self-determine seems nearly universal. But that doesn’t mean the urge to raise self esteem is equally active in all people at all times. At any given moment, it may be quite dormant in the majority of the population. Most will settle for easy, simple answers about themselves.Self Esteem – The Ancients Already Understood You
The wise men of ancient days never dreamed of airplanes, cell phones or personal computers. In fact, as far as technology went, they didn’t have much to work with at all. But they seem to have understood the importance of self esteem. The old guys weren’t fools. In fact, the very lack of mechanical, chemical or electronic knowledge drove them, forcing them to dig into the areas where they could experiment, observe and record results.Self Esteem – Your Secret Blueprint and the Unrecognized Plan
Your entire life is being constructed and maintained according to plan. This plan, meticulously followed in every detail, guides the way everything fits together, including your self esteem, your health, your income, the friends you attract (and repel), and every other phase of your existence. This plan is so secret that you may never have heard of it, never seen it, possibly never even suspected that it exists.
The many consequences of low self-esteem block the road to personal and business success. On the other hand, people who build self-esteem are in charge of their world, have work/life balance, and take responsibility for their personal journeys. The author shares stories and simple exercises to help the reader build self-esteem.Self Confidence – Eight Little Words That Will Pick Up Your Confidence!
After a rather difficult day during a hectic week, I decided to have a “comfort” evening. For me, this means crawling into my oldest most comfortable pajamas, fixing a favorite meal, and watching a well- loved movie.Confidence – “An Inside Job”
Okay. So, I walk into an international coffee shop chain to buy a Latte. I’m greeted by a young man at the cash register who is basically “shaking in his boots” transmitting a tremendous lack of confidence.