Loving someone is tough. Even telling someone you love them is hard. Is it the right time? Will they say it back? Do I really feel this way about them? I’m sure these thoughts have ran through your mind before ever saying the words ‘I love you’.
We have all been taught that love conquers all, but not many teach that actually loving someone is hard work. The time you used to put into yourself, you must now reserve for another. You find yourself exploring situations that you wouldn’t usually find yourself in.
If you are a man you now have certain responsibilities you need to uphold – and I’m not talking about paying for things or taking your partner out either. I’m referring to the social norms placed upon men such as protector, lover and friend.
Men must navigate the harsh reality that they can not just look after themselves. They have to keep an eye out for trouble and remove themselves and their partner from it.
Women also have a role to play, society has expressed that you must look a certain way and behave attentively to your man. Not easy, when you have to deal with being paid less and having to fight with the male ego when paid more.
Beyond all these societal expectations is this thing call ‘love’. Beautiful and yet dangerous. Beautiful because you are able to give a piece of yourself to another and dangerous because you don’t know what they will do with it.
Despite the challenge of loving and receiving love, it is worth it. Giving a piece of yourself to another may be scary but if you and your partner love equally, it can feel amazing to know that despite life’s troubles someone always has your back.
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